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8 Practical Strategies to Reclaim Your Focus and Thrive


Living with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) often involves navigating a world that doesn't always feel designed for how one's brain works. It can mean facing daily frustrations – feeling overwhelmed by tasks, misunderstood by others, or falling short despite putting in immense effort. Challenges with managing time (sometimes called time blindness), difficulties with executive functions like planning and organization, and intense emotional responses are common experiences. These struggles can lead to significant internal battles with self-doubt and exhaustion.


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However, managing ADHD isn't about trying to "fix" a broken part of oneself. Instead, it's a journey towards understanding one's unique neurological wiring and discovering strategies that work with it, not against it. It's about building a personalized toolkit with practical approaches grounded in self-awareness and compassion.


This 8-week article series explores eight such strategies: letting go of shame, mastering time with the Pomodoro Technique, finding focus with body doubling, making calendars an ally, designing personalized trackers, conquering big projects with milestones, fueling motivation with rewards, and lightening the load through delegation and automation. These aren't overnight cures, but sustainable practices that can empower individuals with ADHD to navigate challenges more effectively.

Tip 1: Let Go of Shame, Embrace Self-Compassion


The Weight of Shame in ADHD

For many individuals with ADHD, feelings of shame, inadequacy, and low self-esteem can become persistent companions. This heavy burden often stems from the chronic frustration of grappling with ADHD symptoms daily. Perceived failures in areas like organization, time management, or emotional regulation can lead to harsh self-judgment. Furthermore, societal stigma and misunderstanding surrounding ADHD can exacerbate these feelings. When others misinterpret symptoms as laziness, lack of intelligence, or carelessness, or when individuals face constant criticism from teachers, parents, or even themselves, it's easy to internalize these negative messages.


This is particularly true when ADHD goes undiagnosed or is misunderstood, as is often the case for women, whose symptoms may present differently from the stereotypical hyperactive boy model. Women may internalize their struggles with societal expectations around organization or multitasking, leading to feelings of inadequacy rather than recognizing the neurological basis for their challenges. The feelings of shame often associated with ADHD aren't inherent to the condition itself. Rather, they frequently arise from the friction between the unique ways the ADHD brain works—like challenges with executive functions or emotional regulation—and an environment that may not understand or accommodate these differences. Persistent frustration, societal stigma, or criticism can lead to internalizing these struggles as personal failings.


The Antidote: Cultivating Self-Compassion

The most powerful antidote to this cycle of shame and self-criticism is self-compassion. This means treating oneself with the same kindness, understanding, and patience that would be offered to a dear friend facing similar struggles. It's not about making excuses for difficulties but about acknowledging the reality of ADHD challenges without resorting to harsh self-judgment. It involves recognizing that ADHD is a valid neurodevelopmental disorder and that the associated struggles are not a reflection of one's inherent worth.

Embracing self-compassion is an active process. It involves offering oneself kindness during difficult moments, consciously working to reframe negative self-talk, and seeking out supportive connections where experiences are validated.


Actionable Steps Towards Self-Compassion:

  • Acknowledge and Validate Feelings: When frustration or overwhelm hits, pause and recognize the feeling without judgment. Speak kindly to that struggling part of oneself, validating the difficulty. For instance, one might think, "I see that starting this task feels overwhelming right now, and that must be stressful. Let's just try one small step".

  • Challenge the Inner Critic: Become aware of negative self-talk patterns, such as thoughts like "I'm not good at this," "I always mess up," or "Why am I like this?" Understand that multiple positive affirmations can neutralize the impact of a single negative thought. Actively challenge these critical thoughts by reframing them in a more realistic, balanced, and positive light.

  • Celebrate Progress, Not Perfection: Shift the focus away from achieving flawless outcomes, which can be an unrealistic and damaging standard given the variability often inherent in ADHD functioning. Instead, acknowledge and take pride in forward movement, no matter how small. Value the effort invested and the steps accomplished correctly, even if the end result isn't perfect. Focusing only on missteps can be incredibly demoralizing. This focus on progress aligns better with the nature of ADHD and helps break the cycle where inconsistent performance leads to feelings of failure and shame.

  • Practice Mindfulness: Pay attention to thoughts and feelings as they arise, without harsh judgment or criticism. This practice can cultivate greater self-awareness and acceptance.

  • Find Your Tribe: Connect with others who understand the ADHD experience. Joining support groups (like those offered by CHADD) or online communities (such as ADDitude's ADHD-related groups) can provide a safe space for acceptance and understanding. Sharing struggles openly with empathetic peers can be a powerful antidote to shame and isolation.

  • Prioritize Needs: Recognize that basic physical, emotional, and cognitive needs – like adequate sleep, rest, nutrition, and time for self-care – are not luxuries or rewards to be earned only after achieving productivity goals. They are fundamental necessities for well-being and effective functioning. Denying these needs often hinders performance rather than helping to push through tasks. Everyone is worthy of having their basic needs met.


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Every business leader knows they need to delegate to achieve better results. The problem comes when leaders try to move from thought to action. Their beliefs about themselves, their team, and the work they are trying to accomplish prevent them from letting go of tasks and trusting others to do work they have traditionally completed. This resistance to delegation slows growth, creates workflow bottlenecks, and negatively impacts company performance.


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What should a leader do?

Delegation is a skill. Like all skills, starting small and building up to more difficult tasks is best as you gain mastery. Leaders frequently get frustrated with the delegation process because they start it with the wrong mindset. They are accustomed to performing tasks at a high level and expect perfect results the first time they delegate a task. The reality is that most people do not do tasks perfectly the first time they attempt them. As a leader, you must learn to delegate effectively, and your employee or contractor must learn through practice how to do the task to your expectations. The more you delegate, the better you will get, and the more your employee does the task, the better they will perform, provided that you have a system for delegation.


How do you start?

The Power6 Leader program teaches the ACES system of delegation. ACES stands for Assess, Communication, Empower, and Support. This four-step approach to delegation reduces uncertainty and provides a systematic method for evaluating employees and tasks, setting expectations, building trust, and ensuring that employee competency is built over time.


How to assess tasks to be delegated?

To help you get started, we have developed this worksheet to help you assess the tasks you should be delegating and the people you should be delegating those tasks to.


Download this tool, read the instructions, and email Dorian Cunion if you have any questions about how to use it. dcunion@yourpathexecutivesolution.com




Have you recently stepped into a management role and feel you're navigating uncharted territory? Or perhaps you're an experienced leader who's hit a glass ceiling, unsure how to break through to the next level? You may recognize areas where your leadership could be more impactful. You're not alone. The journey of leadership is continuous, filled with challenges that can hinder your progress or become stepping stones to greater success. This blog post delves into common leadership hurdles and offers insights from real-world experiences to help you navigate these challenges and accelerate your career trajectory.


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Advancing your career as a leader requires more than just technical skills; it demands strong interpersonal abilities, strategic thinking, and the capacity to navigate complex team dynamics. Let's explore some key challenges and how to address them.

Leading with Confidence: Overcoming Self-Doubt and Building Influence

Stepping into a leadership role or aiming for the next one can often be accompanied by feelings of self-doubt.

  • The Imposter Syndrome: Many capable leaders, especially those newly promoted, grapple with imposter syndrome—the feeling that they're not truly qualified for their role. Imposter syndrome can manifest as a lack of confidence in their decisions or an inability to own their achievements fully.

  • Building Executive Presence: To advance your career, you must cultivate executive presence – the ability to command respect, inspire trust, and communicate effectively. Executive presence involves more than just what you say; it's also about how you say it and carry yourself.

  • Navigating Difficult Conversations: Leadership often involves addressing conflict and having tough conversations with team members. Becoming comfortable with direct yet compassionate communication is crucial for resolving issues and fostering a healthy team environment.

Mastering Team Dynamics and Delegation for Career Growth

Your ability to lead and develop your team directly impacts your career advancement.

  • Effective Delegation: Leaders who try to do everything themselves often hit a ceiling. Learning to delegate effectively frees up time for strategic initiatives, empowers your team members, and fosters their growth. Trust and clear expectations are foundational for successful delegation.

  • Managing Different Personalities and Communication Styles: Leading a team means working with individuals with diverse communication preferences and work styles. Understanding and adapting to these differences is key to minimizing conflict and maximizing team performance.

  • Developing Future Leaders: Organizations increasingly value leaders who can identify and develop talent within their teams. Mentoring and coaching your direct reports benefits the organization and showcases your leadership capabilities.

Strategic Thinking and Planning for Career Advancement

Moving up the career ladder requires a shift from focusing solely on day-to-day tasks to thinking strategically about the bigger picture.

  • Developing a Long-Term Vision: Leaders who can articulate a clear vision for the future and inspire their teams to work towards it are highly valued. Visioning involves looking beyond immediate goals and understanding where your business needs to be 3 to 5 years in the future.

  • Prioritization and Time Management: As you take on more responsibility, effective prioritization and time management become critical. Learning to focus on high-impact activities and delegate less important tasks is essential for staying productive and avoiding overwhelm.

  • Continuous Learning and Adaptation: The business world constantly evolves, with new technologies and trends emerging regularly. Staying curious, seeking new information (through resources like Harvard Business Review and industry publications), and adapting to change are vital for continued career growth.

The Power of Clarity and Strategy: A Real-World Example

Consider Sarah (not her real name), a Director of Marketing at a growing tech company. She was a high performer, consistently delivering excellent results and driving significant organizational growth. Despite her hard work and achievements, Sarah felt underappreciated and overlooked by her CEO for advancement opportunities. She knew she could do more but lacked clarity on positioning herself for promotion and felt her contributions weren't being fully recognized.

Sarah sought executive coaching to address these frustrations. Over six months, we focused on developing her executive presence, tackling underlying imposter syndrome that sometimes held her back from fully owning her accomplishments, and refining her business strategy to align more closely with the CEO's vision. Sarah did all the heavy lifting – she implemented new communication strategies, proactively presented her strategic insights, and confidently articulated her value. Our work together gave her clarity and a strategic framework to showcase her leadership potential more effectively.

Within a year of our engagement, Sarah's impact became undeniable. She received a significant raise and, more importantly, was promoted to Vice President of Marketing, a role that better reflected her capabilities and contributions. Sarah's story underscores the power of gaining clarity and developing a targeted strategy to unlock career advancement.

Executive Coaching Accelerates Growth:

Advancing your career as a leader is a continuous learning and development journey. You can break through career ceilings and achieve your professional aspirations by building confidence, mastering team dynamics, cultivating strategic thinking, and gaining clarity on your value and direction. Remember that seeking guidance and building a strong network of peers and mentors can provide invaluable support along the way.


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